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What I’ve Learned From Being Broke: Part 2

PRIORITIES WILL EMERGE

When the money gets tight, and then it gets short, the priorities will have to be discussed.  We have never been ones to live an extravagant lifestyle.  We don’t buy expensive things just to drop brand names and we don’t get the latest, greatest and newest just because it’s out.  Even though, we have had to decide what things are important.  Here’s what we came up with.

  1. Cell phones are important. Data plans and extras on cell phones are not important.  Because Jeff uses his cell phone for business and I keep mine with me at all times while I’m out with Carter, we decided that this was a good expense.  We both need new phones, but that need hasn’t worked it’s way to the top of our priority list since they both continue to do that they were made to do:  make phone calls.
  2. TV is not important.  Does Jeff like to have ESPN?  Yes.  Do I like to watch Top Chef on Bravo?  Yes.  Are those things more important than paying for our house?  No way.  So, they’re gone.  So many positive things have come from this and the most important is more time to play with Carter.
  3. Entertainment can be free.  Sitting on our butts watching movie channels or Netflix wasn’t really quality time.  We can see that.  Yes, we still like to watch a good movie now and then, but the $1.00 Redbox movies once a month are just as good as the money we paid to have them delivered to our mailbox.  And, there are parks and places to hang out that don’t cost a dime.
  4. Going out to dinner one time in a week is plenty. We are former eat-out-every-meal-on-the-weekends people.  I thought it was my right, that I earned not having to cook for those days.  Eating out is a heckuva lot more special when you only do it once and it means something.  Each Sunday night our church “swarms” a local restaurant and we go every week.  I look forward to it all week long.  I know it will be a great time with friends and a great chance to meet new people.
    Plus, I could mention here that it’s a lot healthier and cheaper to eat at home.

I don’t feel like I’m missing any part of having a fulfilling life by cutting back on things that I once thought were so important to me.  I appreciate so many more of the small things in life now–laughing with friends, playing or reading with my son, quiet time in my house.

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What I’ve Learned from Being Broke: Part 1

PEOPLE REALLY DON’T CARE

I’ve been meaning to write these posts for quite a while because I have TRULY learned a lot through our time of “financial struggle”.  And, since we’re not quite in the clear, I’m continuing to learn every day.

The first thing I learned is that people really don’t care.  I don’t at all mean that they don’t care that me or my family is going through a difficult time.  I mean:

  • People don’t care if I get my hair cut, colored, highlighted…or whether I even fix it.  Certainly, we’ve had to cut a few costs in the area of hair care.  My hair cuts are VERY spaced out, I am doing my highlights at home and we bought a cheap pair of clippers and I cut Jeff’s hair now.  My friends and “people” in general are still just as full of nice things to say about my hair.  In fact, I’ve found that if I do absolutely nothing to it, I get the most compliments.  Crazy.  I still don’t love the slight military high-and-tight feel that Jeff’s hair has to it right after I cut it, but it sure does save us about $40 a month.
  • People don’t care if I wear the same pair of jeans each time I see them. No one notices that I have not bought any nice, new, current clothing in over a year.  If I wear my favorite jeans every time I see them, no one cares or notices.
  • People don’t care that my shoes are ratty.  Not a single person laughs when I wear my black shoes that I’ve been wearing throughout 4 winters now.  In fact, I’m sure they don’t even notice my shoes.

The bottom line is: I am far more concerned about my appearance that other people are.  What people do notice is a kind smile, an encouraging word and a listening ear.

P.S.  Highlighted my own hair last night.  Here are the results.  I think it’s very Gwen Stefani.

More to come on the lessons of being broke.