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Evan – 3 and 4 Months

The time, where does it go?

I’ll tell you.  It goes into smiling, laughing, feeding, burping, changing, bouncing, soothing all rolled together times hundreds.  It’s life with a baby and it’s beautiful.  Admittedly, I am a baby person.  I love this stage.  Particularly now that Evan’s personality is in full bloom.  I love the smiles and laughs and moods – all new to him and to me.  Babies have a supreme talent for making all else in the world seem incredibly unimportant.  All that matters is each new thing that he experiences and that I am there to see that those experiences are amazing and possible.

For Halloween, Evan had the pleasure of dressing up like a Pea in a Pod.  He was being his usual good sport self in this shot, but that did not last long.  Eventually he realized that he had a stem growing out of his noggin and he was going to have no more of the silliness.  We settled on an adorable knitted hat that made him a much more comfortable Evan Corn the next night for Trick-or-Treating.

We went to a nearby nice neighborhood for trick-or-treating since it’s difficult to walk between houses out here in the country.  Plus, most of us are used to not getting any traffic on Halloween.  Ever the honest child, Carter enjoyed telling folks at the doors that we didn’t live in their neighborhood.  Cute.

Later on the in the month we decided that we were ready to be people of adventure again.  We wanted to travel.  We decided to pack up our 2 children and drive from SC to New York City for Thanksgiving.  If it was an adventure we wanted, it was an adventure we got.

Despite having tried out the baby carrier around the house, carrying him for hours around the city while running up and down stairs to catch trains and get to a 4th floor apartment was an entirely different endeavor.  Thankfully the weather was mostly awesome and there were plenty of family members there willing to help carry and soothe a city-weary baby.

Here we are in Times Square.  You can’t tell, but it’s raining here.  I just love the irony from the sign above our heads.  Surely the sign must have been alluding to the 18 hour wade through the I-81 parking lot  that we would face on the way home.  Even with 4 stops, it took just over 12 hours to get there, so we had a lovely 6 hours of sitting in traffic tacked onto our trip.  In a car.  With 2 small children.  We were warned it would be bad, but sometimes you can’t tell me us anything.

Needless to say- I’ll be home for Christmas.

Before I close, I just wanted to share one more adorable shot of our little “Punka Chunka” sporting his USC Game.cocks outfit.  Oh yes, the brainwashing has already begun.


The Second Month

Physical Changes: Evan continues to fill out.  Our nicknames for him include: Big E, Chunka Chunka, Squishy Face, Eggplant, Boopa Do (that one’s Carter’s), Little Pumpkin (Puh Kin).  At the end of 2 months, he weighed in at a whopping 13.3 pounds at his checkup.  His face has changed so much and he’s starting to look more like himself and less like a little Carter.

New Skills:
Supporting his own head
Standing and bouncing with support
Tracking objects

Sleep Patterns:  About halfway through the month, Evan gave me a little gift.  He stopped waking up every 2 1/2 hours and started waking up only once in the middle of the night.  What a difference.  Sanity has returned.  He’s such a good nighttime sleeper.  He’s down around 8:30 or 9, gets a “top off” feeding as we head to bed and then wakes up around 3:30 only long enough to fill his tummy, then he’s back out again.  He typically wakes up for the day with the sun, so about 7:30.

We started the Baby Wise schedule with Carter a little late, but according to this book Evan should be mature enough to skip that last middle of the night feeding around 8-10 weeks.  As I write this, he’s 10 weeks old.  In my head, I’ve got a little battle going on about starting sleep training with him.  I think it’s valuable and necessary, but I’m just not sure that he really is ready to go all night yet.  So, I’m waiting.  I’m hoping that he’ll do this on his own when he’s ready

I most want to remember:
The feeling that comes with getting that first smile is awesome.  It’s that moment that I felt like, to Evan, I became someone familiar and known.  I know he was “bonded” to me before then, but this outward sign of connect is my favorite.

The biggest challenges:  

Making it out of the house, alone, with two children continues to be a challenge.  We continue to get out, but it can be pretty exhausting and seems almost more trouble than it’s worth sometimes.  Dress the children, make the bottles, take extra everything, get in the car, get everyone buckled, head out and get a few things done, then head right back.

Sharing my attention and affections.  I love both of my children so much and they both need and want so much from me.  I want to be able to give them everything, but at times I feel like I have to deprive one to help the other.

How I feel:

A new normal has started to settle in.  Though I haven’t found those extra hours needed in the day to do all I need to do, I’ve found ways to just enough and be ok with it.

I’m exercising (a little) and wearing all my old clothes.  It’s a bit of a high to have made this very large accomplishment so quickly with my second child.  I feel like a hot mama and that’s a boost for the ol’ confidence level.

The end of the month…

To Cry or Not to Cry

Crying has to be the hardest sound for a mother to hear.  It rips my heart out.

Around 3 weeks, Evan’s tummy troubles began.  I have always been under the impression that formula is formula.  I definitely do not feel that way any more.  I started with regular ol’ En.famil in the yellow cans.  It didn’t suit Evan’s tummy, so I switched to the gentle version.  It didn’t really help and poop problems set in.

From the outside looking in, I find it completely weird to talk about poop.  When it’s my child and his well-being, it is a chief concern and I’ll discuss it with anyone who will listen.  It’s also hilarious that baby poop descriptions are liked to food.  Right now we’re at the peanut butter stage.  We want to be at the mustard-colored applesauce stage.  Until we reach it, Evan is very uncomfortable.  To get there, the doctor has put him on formula that we are calling “The Golden Formula”.  We were buying 3 lbs. of formula for $20.  Now, he’s on very special “medicinal” formula for $25 for 1 lb.  To put it into perspective, that only lasts 3 days.  That’s $250/month for this liquid gold.  So far, the liquid gold isn’t doing crap for him and I’m worrying about how we are going to continue to purchase this stuff for 5 more months.  Despite our dire financial situation, I’ve never considered applying for government assistance.  I have reach the point of desperation. I have an appointment in two weeks for help.

He’s got hard poop, gas and spit ups.  Uncomfortable babies cry, so Evan is crying a lot and sleeping a little.  I definitely believe in teaching a baby to fall asleep on their own.  From my experience, it takes only a few minutes of fussing for a tired baby to fall asleep.  For an uncomfortable and tired baby, it doesn’t work quite the same.  So now I’m torn.  Do I continue to try and teach Evan to fall asleep or do I use other methods to get him to sleep quicker?

Pacifier in the mouth, baby swing, rocking to sleep, holding and bouncing, walking, crying it out.  Some things work some of the time, but it’s like a puzzle trying to figure out what works on what days.

At this point, I’ve tried it all.  I’ve read that it’s normal for babies to cry up to 30 minutes before falling asleep, but it’s just too hard to listen to him cry for that long.  I want to fix whatever is wrong.  I’m taking this one day at a time, waiting for the golden formula to work and his little system to get stronger and more resilient.  It’s so hard…