There’s a need to put into words what it’s like when the feelings come.
It comes like a summer storm that hits in the middle of the night. The kind that wake you from your peace. The kind you can feel in the walls of your house. The kind of storm that steals the quiet and replaces it with chaos.
It’s never a float down a river or a winding road up a mountain. it’s never a slow walk around the block. There’s no turn off. No chance to chase it away with great habits or better choices.
Most often, it just appears. It comes with skin that crawls and won’t settle. That, if touched, would surely break. It’s electricity streaming through my veins that only escapes with a cry or a scream. It comes with feeling like a stranger in this life.
And yes, sometimes there’s a prelude. Sometimes I can see the clouds in the distance. A moment of looking to my future and seeing nothing but empty days. The panic that hits knowing what I wanted it to be, fighting and pushing and clawing for it to be, but falling so short. Then the fight starts to be fine with the empty visions. To find some sort of peace in not knowing, some sort of peace that lies with just me. And falling short there, too.
For all my life that I’ve had awareness of the world and it’s expectations, and I think I’ve been able to see myself for who I really am. I’m supposed to be kind to myself, but at times I’m not sure I deserve that. When I feel love, I’m a warm person. I’ll wrap myself up in that feeling and bring in everyone around me. When I’m hurt, it gets ugly. I’m cold. Everything hurts and I’m all claws and tears and only small glimpses of the inside before I’ll draw it back inside. And I dare anyone to try to find a way in, knowing they will want to run, too. I know what beauty is. I pursue it for myself and in others. But I don’t believe that I have it. Not only that, but I believe that I’m moving farther from it every day. And in this way, I blame myself for the pain.
Sometimes it’s outside of me. Sometimes I glimpse the embodiment of what I thought my life would be. I’m face to face with it and it takes the breath from my lungs. There it is- the life that I couldn’t work hard enough for, couldn’t be enough for, couldn’t hold together. Sometimes it’s glimpsing complete honesty in the world between two people. Its a cry from deep within. It’s a jealousy without hatred. It’s a longing. And it fades, gets mixed around with my reality, and falls into full on grieving.
The storms don’t stay. They barrel in and rip things up, leaving a wake of things to be dealt with and put back into place. And that’s what I do. I put things back into place and move forward.
I try to be thankful that I no longer live in storms and I try to stay curious about why they still show up. I try.
Thoughts on My Thoughts